Hi future mama,
How was your week? Are you making time for yourself to relax and unwind a bit? To create some space? I've been realizing more and more how important it is to create some space and nourish myself so that I can keep my energy where it needs to be to best serve my clients.
So I took 4 days off and went to visit my parents who moved from Massachusetts down to Wake Forest, NC a few years ago. It was so great to spend some time with my parents since I only get to see them twice/year on average these days. One of my favorite things that we did over the weekend was a trail ride in the woods. It was so nice to be in the forest going by waterfalls, through creeks and just taking some slow deep breaths. My horse Dakota was beautiful, but he was driving me nuts for the first part of the ride. Like one of the horses I had growing up, he wanted to eat every two minutes so he kept trying to stop short and eat. I was getting frustrated because he was holding up my progress and I had to keep catching up to my family. Why was he working against me?I was frustrated that I wasn't having the tranquil, "plugged in" experience I was expecting. I wasn't enjoying this beautiful scenery all around me. And as happens many times, whenever I find myself getting frustrated with something, it's inevitably a microcosm of life- and often related to this work. I was looking at the situation as the horse was failing me, something was wrong, and I couldn't enjoy the time I knew I was supposed to be enjoying. When you're on this fertility journey we often feel that our body is failing us (horse), I should be pregnant by now (something is wrong), and you can't enjoy the way life is playing out because you're so preoccupied with what's not going the way we planned. Those feelings and beliefs are so strong sometimes that they can really derail us and keep us spinning in the same place for a long time. In my microcosm situation, I could have let that get to me and let it ruin the ride and this short time I had with my parents. And for what?
So I started by reconnecting to the horse. My first mistake was viewing the horse and I as separate. I was trying to control a 2,000 pound animal, and it wasn't working. I put my hands on his neck and talked to him. I calmed my energy because I'm sure he could feel how uptight I was getting. And just took some deep breaths. Let's enjoy this ride together. And after that it was fine. He only tried to snack two more times and I was happy to let him because he wasn't stopping me every two minutes anymore. I thoroughly enjoyed the ride with him and this time I got to spend with my parents. It could have gone completely the other way if I let it. You have the ability to make a conscious choice in everything that's coming into your existence. It will make all the difference in this journey for you.
One more thing that made my trip to North Carolina extra special was getting to meet my fabulous client, Grace! I've been fortunate to meet quite a few clients and they're all wonderful. Grace is the rockstar I was telling you about last time, and it was so great to meet her in person. We met at a cute little tea room and had tea and quiche! We talked about traveling, our pugs, our weddings, and of course mindset stuff. She's come so far so fast :
getting her cycle after never getting it on her own
working through family relationships
approaching friend relationships from a heart cracked open place so that they can heal and move forward
releasing patterns and attachments that are no longer serving her
reframing things that scared her into things that are beneficial for her
I'm so proud of her!!
And finally, congratulations to my client Cristina. She was my client who last year dealt with male factor infertility and got pregnant. Her little Scarlet will be 1 at the end of June. WELL, I just got an email from her that without even trying, they are pregnant with number 2! So psyched for her. I know it's hard to "not try", but in her husband's case he had been unfulfilled work and family wise, and now that he has precious Scarlet, he's filling filled up and his motility and count improved and ta-da....baby X is on the way. I'm putting in my energetic vote that it's a boy. We shall see!KNOW that you can do this. And if you need help getting started, click here.
Until next time mamas,